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Sunday, December 27, 2009

Tribute

From Allah we come, and to Him we return. Who are we to deny what is destined for each and every one of us. Indeed every living creature has their own time on earth, and when it ends, it is time to leave and meet our Creator.


On December 24th, 2009, at 0127 hours, my dear Uncle had left us to meet God Al-Mighty. He was in coma after a major surgery to remove a tumor near his kidney. He was 54 years old, and was survived by a wife and four children. He was my mother’s brother, and was the closest to her and all of us his nieces and nephew.


As I recall the whole event, from the day of his surgery to the day he took his last breath, it happened without any sign. It happened in a sudden, and it was shocking. He was showing signs of recovery on the day he left, but Allah has better plans for him indeed. He fought through out this battle- he was very strong. I did not get to visit him when he was in the hospital, but my mother did. According to her, he fought to stay half awake all the while he was in coma, and that he acknowledged every one who visited him.


That was how he always had been through out his life. He had high determination and to him, nothing is impossible. I remembered visiting him in Johore a week before my SPM examination. I was not good with the Physics subject and him being a Lecturer at a local university in Johore Bahru, had helped me with tips on scoring the paper. What could be more valuable than a helping hand from a professor with a Doctorate in Physics to help you sit for your high school paper? I was very happy with how I scored on Physics although Physics was not really my favorite subject.


Perhaps my mother has better words to describe him. The two were like twins when they were young, and even up to his last days, they were inseparable. My mother is a couple of years older than him, and he looked up to her most of the times. Even when he had moved to Johore Bahru to pursue his career as a Professor, he and his family never failed to come and visit us once in a while. As a big sister my mother has always looked out on her siblings. They shared a beautiful bond that not many 9 siblings can pull off, it is always nice to see when all 9 of them gathered together.


I have some fond memories with him when I was a kid that I will always treasure. One was on Eid Al Mubarak, where I never failed to come with his family when they toured around our small village and visit every relative that we know - My way of getting fast Duit Raya. Back then he only had two daughters; and we were as close as ever, even until now. He had two boys later in the years, making it four children altogether. They are the best cousins to us, and we get along really well. I guess we inherit instantly the bond my mother has with their father.


I was never strong when it comes to stories on death, but who am I to ignore how my Aunt, Yanie, Fatin, Hazim and Dzakwan had accepted this. They had been calm; I guess they were prepared to face any possibilities. So was my mother. She was strong when she received the news. I was not. My husband had to calm me down the soonest I hang up from talking to my sister over the phone. That was when I decided instantly to follow my parents to Johore Bahru to pay my last respect to him and recite Yasin for him. And along the way, I could not help but to think how I am to face his family. I knew I had to gather myself – it is against Islam to weep when visiting the deceased. Instead we have to recite the Yasin and Al-Fatihah for him – he is going to a better place.


Pak Ndak, through out his life, was a great man, he was humble and kind, down-to-earth and was highly looked upon. He has many friends and never was there any enemy. His house was flooded with people who came to pay their last respect. From friends old and new, his fellow colleagues from the Uni as well as his students. May Allah receive all the prayers recited for him.

As we went on our way to his final resting place, I prayed to God to make me strong to watch his burial. Alhamdullilah I was strong to watch everything, until the last moment when his family, my mother as well as my other aunties and uncles pour rose water and flowers on his Grave. My heart shattered into pieces – this was the final goodbye.


I had faced two departures in this year alone. Both of which are close and dear to me, my Pak Ndak, and my dear niece Ainnur Batrisya. But who am I to go against what God had planned for us. Only prayer recitals are the only way to communicate with them. May my prayers make their way to them.


Al – Fathihah to Pak Ndak. You are always in our heart.


Muhammad Khairi Bin Saaidin (1955 – 2009) Rest in Peace.

Thursday, November 19, 2009

It is only 2 weeks and 2 days until...

...I legally, officially, and finally join the great Wife Club and become, the Mrs Jashar Hamzah.

I love that name. And of course I love the title. It's the beginning of a new phase in our life. Two become ONE.

11 months and 5 months down since we got engaged last year, and with only 2 weeks and 2 days to go, I am happy with how far I have come with the preparation. Truth be told, it isn't easy planning a wedding. I have to admit that without the guidance and help from family, dear friends who have gone through this period (way before me), and of course the ideas from dear "Bachelorette" friends, I couldn't have come this far. Seriously. Preparing a wedding requires full concentration, and making sure that everything is perfect. I have to be careful with the little things, and believe me, every little thing counts. There's no perkara remeh when we talk about Wedding.

Although it is advisable to
start booking and planning way early to avoid any hiccups in the end, I on the other hand, had without feeling any fear or guilt, started these two things 3 months ago.
I hope no other bride-to-be out there practices this. I'd say it is risky. Yes there are many channels out there for wedding needs, but there is no guarantee that you will get services from the best wedding needs suppliers. I experienced being turned down myself - many of which the services that they can provide is to die for. Yes, it is a disappointment, but Thank God I have found the best service providers whom I put full trust in making my wedding the way I have always dream of.

3 months ago when we started to survey, I had a long ponder as to why on earth would somebody who is only to get married in March 2010 had booked, paid the deposit to block the date, and confirmed her selection. In my mind I thought:

1. When did they even start the planning?
2. What if they would like to change their mind and choose the other providers?
3. What if they, in the end do not get married to each other at all?

For Questions 1 and 2, I came to think about that if you are really sure that you would like to get the best services from the best providers, it is mandatory to book and block their schedules on your date, the earliest you possibly can, to avoid any clashes which will eventually leads to frustration. I am speaking through experience, and also from Wedding guide books (which I failed to follow every steps described) which I never fail to buy.

For Question 3, it is a little inappropriate to even think about that. Pardon me.

It was too late when all these became clear to me. Not because I am too dumb to not think about it all, but because I always think it is too early to be starting anything, and delayed the booking.
Another was because I had a hard time deciding which and which, whom and whom. That's when advices, testimonials, comments, and your own judgments came in handy.

I personally think that it is not a problem if one provider turns you down, as they will be another who can provide the same. I am happy to share who my final service providers are, do feel free to contact me personally if you wish to know more.

Many of my friends had asked me this same question, " How's the preparation coming? ".
My answer to this has always been , "Alhamdullilah, it's getting there". (insert smiley face)
Some said it sounded fishy, some even said I am being cruel for not sharing every details. To me, I'd like it to be a surprise. It is going to be extra-ordinary and definitely not the typical Malay Wedding. I opted to be different from the normal practice, and to make it real I only reveal a few things.

So here are the few things:

Basic Wedding Needs
1.Theme -It is to honor the roots of my ancestors.
2.Color -My favorite color, which is also the color for my zodiac.
3.Venue-Home, it is where I have always wanted my wedding to be.
4.Pelamin-Discussed and loving the ideas, waiting for the setup 4 days prior to the reception.
5.Deco -Discussed, and it is the work of the same person who does the pelamin.
6.Goodie bags-Solely my wonderful mother's idea, with a touch of my creativity.
7.Bunga Telur/ Pahar - Solely the creative touch of my Wonderful mother, with a little of my help.
8.Souvenirs on VIP tables-Again, no other than the creative touch of my Wonderful mother.
9.Caterer- Same as on my engagement.
10.Menu - Picked out and tested. Caterer's a family too.
11.Tents - Provider's a family. Never failed to satisfy our needs.
12.Band - My dad's contact from PETRONAS. Songs selection finalized. Hope they'll be able to deliver.
13.MC- Mr. Mike. :)
14. Photographer - Someone who happens to be my brother's friend.

My Wedding Needs:
1. Nikah's outfit - Fitting has yet to be done.
2.Nikah Shoes - Saw a nice one at Nine West, but they don't have my size in KLCC. To hunt at Pavillion.
3.Nikah Tudung - To arrange with Zaza.
4. Inai - I am having second thoughts whether to get the fancy henna or just a simple henna on my nails.
5.Make up- Somebody I have faith in. He does wonders.
6.Reception's outfit - Booked.
2.Nikah Shoes - Eyed at Nine West.
3.Make up- It is the same person who does for my Nikah.
4.Veil - The work of Zaza the Beadmaster.


Basically this is it so far. The list is for the Akad and Reception at my house only, as the Bertandang is a month away. I will reveal the actual service provider after the whole reception concluded, InshaAllah.

Getting back to the list, I am thankful to have a mother who is so wonderful. She does wonders to everything she touches. I swear to God if she opens up a Bridal Boutique, she'll pull through. Aah..What better way to ease a worry heart. Mama, I can't thank you enough. I love love love you!


So there you have it on my updates so far. Owh Dear God, please make the butterflies in my stomach go away. They are annoying.

That's it for now. My dear friends, if you have received my card, I'd love to see you come to share my joy.

Owh Yes, you have no idea how happy I am. This is my dream coming through, this is what we've always think about. Pray the best for the both of us. Love, Ushna and Jashar.















Sunday, October 18, 2009

She hasn't spoken in a long time... and now she speaks

Pardon my long break from blogging. It wasn't intentional, I swear to God. Nor I was scared to face reality that my wedding is almost coming, thanks to the very accurate ticker.

Yes. I have been on a long break to plan for my wedding, which according to the ticker up there, is only 1 month, 2 weeks, and 4 days away. Time flies so fast... So little time, yet so many things to do!

My feeling, yes it's nervous and excited at the same time. Who would believe it, I am getting married to my high school sweetheart, of 11 years.

But truth is, I am happy we're coming this way... it is about time.

I am not done with many things, not the big things though, don't worry. Just those little things that you need to make sure you don't miss.

Luckily I have many helping hands. Much love to all of you all.

Gotta go back to wedding preparation. Dear friends whom I haven't got the chance to get your address, please PM me or email me your address so I can send the invitation to you.

04122009... I just can't wait for the day.
Wish me luck, beautiful people out there!

Lots of love from the bride-to-be,

Ushna. xoxo

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

The day I turned 26 (and my tribute to Yasmin Ahmad)

I celebrated my 26th year last Saturday, July the 25th.

And as how my birthdays had been like before, the celebration was more of a family get-together, only this time I have included my extended family from my Fiance's side to join in the fun with us. We opted for a BBQ in our backyard instead of the traditional Birthday dinner. The idea came instantly when Mimie and I were discussing on what to do on my Birthday.

I couldn't find the perfect set of words to describe how joyous that evening was. I have these pictures in my head about that day that I wish I could just publish them here. Pictures that even our camera had failed to capture. How Abah was so full after the many rounds of chickens and lamb, how surprised I looked when Shaz appeared with my Birthday Cake, how Babe full-heartedly prepared his Garlic Prawns based on a method he observed long ago.

What else could anyone want on their special day except to be with those people who they love the most? I don't need Birthday presents to make me happy, it's those people who were present on my day that made me happy. It's those smiles, it's those voices, it's those gestures and familiar faces that are dear to me, that I never get tired of, that never failed to keep me happy.

But I wasn't happy for long. In fact I was sadden by what I had heard on the news the next morning. It was a great loss.

She was always the one with great ideas, ideas that no one could ever saw or thought of but her.
She put her heart and spirit into every piece of her films, and that what made her so special. She continued to touch the hearts of those around her, regardless of age, culture and background.

I had the closest encounter with her in 2007 on a flight to Langkawi. I published an entry specifically on this. I regretted back then for not having the courage to go up to her and tell her how I admire her work, and now I regret for not taking the courage to speak to her at all. Because if Yasmin is still around, she would want you to follow your heart and take the courage, she would want you to put away your regrets and learn from them so you will never make the same mistakes again.

Yasmin Ahmad (July 1, 1958 - July 25, 2009) was a critically-acclaimed multi-award winning film director, and scriptwriter from Malaysia and was also the executive creative director at Leo Burnett Kuala Lumpur. Her television commercials and films are well-known in Malaysia for their humour, heart and love that crosses cross-cultural barriers, in particular her ads for Petronas, the national oil and gas company. Her works have won multiple awards both within Malaysia and internationally. Source : from here.

Yasmin Ahmad will be dearly missed and will always be remembered. R.I.P.

Monday, June 29, 2009

So this is Goodbye







I went through the hardest Friday night when the two most adorable people in my life, had left me, had left us actually, when they were moved out from our residence to reunite with the side of the family. I had sleepless nights ever since. The house was quiet, and lifeless... maybe we're used to having little children screaming and playing around, with giggles that would eventually turned into tears... Sometimes I still want to think there are children in the house that I'd ended up thinking I've heard their cries, or when they'd scream. But truth is, they are not there anymore.

Last Friday night, my dearest niece, Nurin Zahirah Husna and my dearest nephew Muhammad Zahirul Naufal (Along, pardon me if I spelled their names wrongly), were moved to Terengganu by their father, to pursue their schooling there. Although I'd like to think it is not a smart move, it all came back to this question - who are we to stop? I decline to elaborate more on this part.

For the past two years or so, all the while when Nurin and Naufal were with us, the house was alive and full of excitement. Yes indeed. When life or luck was not on my side, or even just a bad day at work, I'd just have to look at their happy and cheeky faces, and that was enough to turn the frown on my face upside down. And when troubles came with no sign of stopping, or when I was in a bad argument with anybody that had me in tears, I'd just sit quietly in my room waiting for that familiar knock or bang on my door. And when it happened, I'd just open the door, and there he was asking me, "Auntie Alang, nape Auntie Alang nangis?” Those words are enough to make any grown ups stop crying. Well, it had always worked like a charm for me. And that is all I need.

It excites me every time I watch them play with each other. It excites me watching them watch Incy Wincy and Upin & Ipin or anything that falls under "children songs" on YouTube. I laughed when Naufal said funny things, made cute remarks, or when he's trying to play grown ups. Owh don't forget the adrenaline rush he gave me every time he cycled around the corner in full speed. (Think a medium-sized bicycle with add-on wheels, taking a small corner that leads to a narrow alley between the sofa and the wall, in full speed. Yes, he cycles indoor and his route is Living Room1-Living Room2-Family Area-Dining Room-Kitchen, back and forth.) While for Kakak, it fascinates me to see how Nurin has evolved, how smart she is now, and how bright she is. Sometimes I forgot the fact that she is only turning 5 this year. She likes to sit with me most of time, except that when she whines, she only wants her Mama. Otherwise, she follows me around like my shadow.

When it came to me that I no longer will get to play with them at home, regrets started to cloud me - for the times when I didn't play with them enough, or attend to their YouTube request. So on their last days with us, I committed to their YouTube demands, let them follow me into my room, piggy-backed them everywhere, sang Satu labah-labah, I love you, and Barney song with all my heart with them, make silly faces with them, and yet those weren't enough. Things will never be the same. Nurin will never play and wait in my room while I shower anymore. Naufal will never tip-toe with me to my room anymore. Nurin and I will never get to hide from Naufal anymore. Uncle Jasha won't get to speak with Naufal over the phone anymore, let alone to come over and play skateboard with him.

When the time to say Good Bye finally came, I had forced myself to be strong and just get on with it. But I found myself holding back tears, and the minute they were out of sight, I choked. Good bye is the hardest thing to say... In fact, I never did like to say it. I’d like to think positive about Good Byes though, and I’d like to take it as “See you later” instead. But not this one, even see you later in not a certain thing, yet…

Naufal turns 3 today. I am not sure if he remembers the airplane Opah promised to buy for him. We are supposed to have a celebration. I just could tell. It’s been a tradition. I saw a Spiderman suit yesterday while I was out with Babe. Naufal will definitely look cute in it. Maybe I should buy this for his Birthday.

I know it isn’t a good thing to weep over something for long. But I’d just want to remain like this. And I know time will heal. I understand this is a very hard decision one has to make, and I’d like to offer my full support, although I feel that the decision is made on an impulse.

So it’s See You Later rather than Good Bye. To my dearest Naufal, Happy Birthday, Auntie Alang miss you so much. Nanti balik rumah Opah kita tengok lagu Labah-Labah k. L .Yup. That’s what I am going to do - to watch Incy Wincy on YouTube tonight and sing with all my heart. To everyone around me, please sing with me if you want, but if you don’t, sorry for having to put up with my singing. Owh well, at least the little ones find it entertaining.

I am “rummaging” through my playlist to see if I still have my MJ songs collection and put them on loop in my mp3 player as a way to pay my tribute for his passing. I grew up listening to his songs, and I adore him a lot. It is devastating to see such icon left us but God loves him more.

You just don’t know what you got till it’s gone.

Thursday, June 11, 2009

The IT Crowd



(Image Source: Google)

I was at Babe's Monday night watching some Monday Night Laughs on Star World when I saw this all new Series- The IT Crowd.

Now I am an IT Crowd as well, and I some sort felt I was connected to this Crowd. Except that my office is not at the store-like basement, and no we do not go to work dressed so casually like them. I have a much nicer workstation with a nice view of the city. Also, mind you, my boss is nothing like the one in The IT Crowd.

"That's your Crowd", Babe said, and I couldn't agree more. LOL. And it's really hilarious (insert Nerdy smile). There was a resemblance indeed. From the telephone calls to the troubleshooting...Now wait. I don't fix computers. Or check your mouse when you claim "it isn't working". That's not my job. We have a different set of team who'd take care of that, while I, my team and I, we troubleshoot problems in regards to the application that we support- from the connection to the database to the licensing and all. The applications under me are mostly Oracle-based so there is a fair chance that I am up for Oracle trainings this FY. (Yeayyy!!)

My users aren't that difficult, considering the fact that they know what sort of information to give me when they require my assistance. Just the new users though, who has just started to use the applications or who has just joined the company. Maybe it's only natural for us, the service providers to have to guide our users, step-by-step, so I just need to be patient when I have to repeat the steps over and over again when my user doesn't get or "see" my instruction.

As most of the users who call in are my regular users, troubleshooting their problem was a breeze because they'd just straight away tell me the problem, so I'd know where to check. Some doesn't even have a clue of the problem, so I've to check every aspects and find the source. It's tough sometimes, meeting with KPI and all, so I really need to put my back into it and solve a.s.a.p. It's a good way to practice my skills, and my expertise, and so far, I managed to solve the problems in time.

And at the end of the day, when all is done and back to normal, Thank you emails that appreciate your work start to flow in. I have a special folder where I keep all my Thank yous emails from my users.
"Thank you so much! You're a rockstar!" One email read. "Thanks yeah Ushna! You're awesome!", another read. "TQVM for your prompt action. I am able to log in to *** now." and "Noted with thanks", are the common ones.

After a hard day at work, it's really nice to read the emails and be proud of what I can provide, and that's a really good job.



Tuesday, May 26, 2009

What are we missing out?

It has been a ritual for a colleague of mine to send out inspirational stories every other morning to everyone in the office, and today, I wish to share with all of you what I have just received yesterday.

The story in the email read like this :

"Perception, taste and priorities of people are today's quest.

A man stood at a metro station in Washington DC and started to play the violin; it was a cold January morning. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, since it was rush hour, it was calculated that thousand seven hundred people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.

Three minutes went by and a middle aged man noticed there was musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried up to meet his schedule. A minute later, the violinist received his first dollar tip: a woman threw the money in the till and without stopping continued to walk.

A few minutes later, someone leaned against the wall to listen to him, but the man looked at his watch and started to walk again. Clearly he was late for work.

The one who paid the most attention was a 3 year old boy. His mother tagged him along, hurried but the kid stopped to look at the violinist. Finally the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. All the parents, without exception, forced them to move on.

In the 45 minutes the musician played, only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while. About 20 gave him money but continued to walk their normal pace.. He collected $32. When he finished playing and silence took over, no one noticed it. No one applauded, nor was there recognition.

No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written with a violin worth 3.5 million dollars. Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theatre in Boston and the seats average $100.

This is a real story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organised by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and priorities of people."


The outlines in this story were:

1. In a common place environment, at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty? Yes/no
2. Do we stop to appreciate it? Yes/no
3. Do we recognize the talent in an unexpected context? Yes/no


One of the possible conclusions from above experience could be:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing in our life?


Worth sitting up and taking note of it - Think!!!

....And think was indeed what I did right after. And Oh my, I do miss out a lot of things.


Monday, May 18, 2009

She's back from Outer Space

FINALLY.

I am back online from my weeks long hibernation. Loved it. Will go for more.
Some snippets on what have been going on in the life of yours truly:

1. Took the time out from our usual in-KL activity and went to Malacca for the weekend. Mainly the trip was Abah's idea, as he needed a golfing getaway. And since his future SIL (read: my fiance :D) is a golfer himself, Abah is so happy that he has an instant Golfer Friend to hit the green with him anytime. Joined by Mimie's boyfriend Shaz, the three went golfing happily while the rest of us - the non-golfers, went to the Safari and enjoyed a group of Elephants dancing and wooing us with a "hand" stand. Later that afternoon we went for a seafood feast at Umbai. Gosh I've never consumed Seafood that much.

2. Jashar Hamzah a.k.a the love of my life, and I celebrated our 11th Anniversary on the recent 28th April. Couldn't be more happier! It's been blissful!

3. I drove to PD later that weekend for more getaway. I just wanted to be at the beach with Jashar.

4. I learned a new Labah-labah song from Naufal. It's the same Incy Wincy Spider song, only that the three year-old changed the lyric a lil bit to "Labba labba leyli, pigi pajat pewigi".

5. Went to get some stuff for my Wedding. Loved it.

6. Naufal tried to understand the "F language" by copying the words when we converse in it but to no luck. But I bet he's going to understand some words in F language soon.

7. My prayers to a dear friend. Nadya, be strong.

8. I need to start some fat burning activities. Not being able to squeeze in my skinny jeans is a horrid experience.

9. I am so hooked up on sewing. My inspiration? Miss Novita Estiti from Sew I do. This lady is fantastic! She works wonders! She makes me want to knit again! Love her!

10. I am finally going for Kursus Kahwin with Jashar this weekend.

11. I really missed some friends. Both old and new. Azera, Azura, Suya to name a few. And Balqis, I hope you'll come with us to Malacca next week.

12. I am so hooked up on Rock Legends!. I am at level 34 now and really feeling like a Rockstar.

13. I am 6 months, 2 weeks, and 4 days away to being Mrs Jashar Hamzah so allow me to once again, for the I-dont-know-how-many-th time, get down and do the chicken dance!

Back to square one. Bila nak kurus ni! Nak kena tempah baju dah! Adoiii!

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

And So She Has A Ticker!

Notice the Ticker up there? GOOD!

My own countdown to our Solemnization - Jashar and I, had gone off-track a few times, sometimes with a day short, and sometimes with an extra day. ( My Facebook page witnessed it not too long ago, when yours truly, at her very best, tried to countdown to her Engagement Day).

And now, as to NOT miscalculate or miss any days out for the countdown, and that I should already be READY with a countdown, I opted for a trustworthy countdown tool, from the World Wide Web of course, Daisypath! ( I did survey other Tickers but Daisypath won my heart *wink*)

When Nadya had her ticker up her page for her wedding countdown, and now has a baby ticker already, I went "Awwwww".
When Hot Mama Knits (:D) had her baby ticker up her page, that's another "Awwwwwww".
When I FINALLY have my Ticker up on my page for MY wedding Countdown, I went

"OH MY GOD! ^&^#%#!!! It's freaking coming already! 7 months? 7 months! Wedding's in 7 months!"

It is an official 7 months, 3 weeks, and 6 days until Jashar and I tie the knot.

To my lovely ladies Nadya and Knits (the HOT MAMAs to be :D), who had gone through this before, I am proud and happy to tell both of you that now it is my turn to get down and do the CHICKEN DANCE a.k.a lari setempat a.k.a lompat setempat!

Yes. Laugh as you may.

Monday, April 6, 2009

There's a road going down the other side of this hill

The voices in my head always tell me these things;

  • There are many empty spaces to be filled.
  • There are friends who are dear to you that you need to catch up on.
  • There are hearts to be reached.
  • There are so many life requests to be fulfilled.
  • There is a wedding to prepare - and it isn't anyone else's but your own.
  • There are other things that evolve after the 8-5pm and these things are not just about the feel good times that you think you enjoy a lot.
  • There are bonds that you need to work on.
  • There are skills to be brushed.
  • There is a future ahead that you need to start thinking of.
  • You think you are invincible. You want to think you are invincible.
  • You know you can't stand these things anymore.
  • You know you need to run away.You know you need to get out.
  • You know you want to leave them all behind. But you can't, because you're in THE comfort zone...or so you think.
  • But you are in control. You know what's holding you back and you know you can fight them.

I have a control on this. I know what's holding me back and I know I can fight them. But it was not easy, and that had left me living in total ignorance and denial.

Self-denial. Self-discipline. I need these.I am in serious need of these. A lot, please.

I need them just in time before reality hit me hard on the face, giving me a sweet taste of the real things -the real things that I tend to ignore, the small things that I have forgotten, the big things that I look up upon and in the end do not do me any good.

There are things that I need to slow down on. There are things that I need to stop doing entirely.

There are things that I need to start focusing on... and I need to start it immediately.

There are things in the list that I need to work on, and I'b be sorry if I don't start it now.

My fiance always tells me that I am no Robot, so there is no need to act like one. He is right. And coming back to my senses, there are things that I need to remember - I am not invincible, we're only people.

And I told myself this today;

Finding a paradise isn't easy... but still, there's a road going down the other side of this hill. All I have to do is work my way to other side...

And just one word to stick to - SELF-DENIAL. For real.

Saturday, March 28, 2009

The Day Has Come!

...For you to cast in your votes, and vote for PLANET EARTH!

It's 4 hours away on my local GMT to Earth Hour. I can't wait to count the stars tonight. The stars must be very bright when it's dark....

...provided it doesn't rain tonight. Well, it sure seems like it...

It's OK. Just eager to see Kuala Lumpur's skyline when the lights go out at 8.30pm tonight...

Hope everyone is in with this inniative...

I know I am... and I hope I am contributing a lot...

It's been hot this evening... another terrible sign of air polution and of course, Global Warming...

Get your fingers ready to turn off the light switches tonight at 8.30pm.

The Earth is counting on you!

Monday, March 16, 2009

8.30PM local time, wherever you live on planet earth. 28th March 2009

60 earth hour. Let's help to make this happen.

All you have to do is - the simplest thing ever - to turn off your lights. For 1 hour. You never know how much it can make a difference.

I am in full support of the Earth Hour 2009 Initiative. I was aware of this last year, but I only managed to participate for 1/2 hour, because when it came, I didn't realise it, because I didn't set my reminder. But this year, I am all geared up to participate, I have set my reminder so that this time, I will be ready in time to turn off the lights when the clock strikes the 2030hours.

You can participate too by signing up at the Earth Hour Main Page and also Malaysia's very own Earth Hour Page, where you can also vote which buildings in Malaysia that you think should have their lights turned off in support of Earth Hour. While The Earth Hour Main Page is targeting 1 billion sign ups this year, Malaysia on the other hand is targeting 5 million sign ups so please please please please my dear Malaysian friends,and friends from the rest of the world, sign up and show your support!

Our planet Earth is crying for help against Global Warming, and I think this is the least you can do. Staying in the dark for 1 hour, wouldn't do you any harm, would it? But if you can't, maybe you can just turn off the outdoor lights and leave the lights inside your house on to show your support. :)




The Voice Within Says: I voted for KLCC and also Penang Bridge to have lights turned off for Earth Hour :) . But just so you know, we at the twin towers do conserve energy. We have our lights automatically turned off during lunch hour and also after 5.30 PM (only dimmed lights are left on), and those who wants to stay back will have to request for lights to be turned on.

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

It's My Mama's Birthday Today!


My dearest most beautiful Mother turns 57 today.

And although my Mama doesn't read my blog, I just want the whole world to know how much she means to me.

Here's me quoting Washington Irving,

"A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts. "



HAPPY BIRTHDAY MAMA!



I Will Soon Took the Handmade Pledge...

When I sew my own bag on Sunday!

What started as an overnight chat with Uyuun on how one can make a bag out of a pillow became a reality when I woke up very early Sunday morning and urge (as Uyuun puts it) Uyuun to come to IKEA with me to find fabrics so we can start sewing!

Boy, it's been long since I got myself busy with any craft project, and Uyuun's call really hyped me up that I couldn't wait to get started on cutting the fabrics when we got home! In case I haven't confess on this, YES I LOVE to sew! I LOVE my mom's Sewing Machine (although it's old, but is still good to use... I once broke the needle because I tried to sew my jeans LOL)

And so there were we, 2Costureras@WorkTM, chalking and trying to arrange the fabric so I can sew later on. Uyuun did most of the cutting, because it's a thick fabric, and I'm a lefty so it's kind of a hassle trying to cut in a straight line. I did all the sewing because apparently I am the only one who's good at sewing with machine LOL.

It took us 5 hours to get the bag done, because we need to move around a lil bit. The chalking and cutting was done in Uyuun's Room. Ironing was at the corner in front of my Room, and sewing in Mama's Private Living Room.

But the Outcome was fantastic. I absolutely love it. I don't have a picture of it, but if you want to see how it looks like, you may do so here,at Uyuun's blog.

This is our first project, more to come. Been eyeing that Charlie Bag, maybe I can start doing it later this weekend. Maybe I can start a business on this one day.

Watch out for my blog extension 2Costureras@WorkTM where I will showcase all my bag creations CosturerasTM, and we'll definitely take orders!


HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY LOVELY MAMA!!! LOVE LOVE LOVE

**UPDATE** I managed to transfer the images from our bag today. Here they are, what do you think? :D (Pictures not so perfect)


Friday, February 20, 2009

In no time, You'll be fine

I took the day off today.

Half day off, actually. For no reason in particular, at all. I just wanted to.

No worries about it. I've got about six days of leave from last year to spend, before June comes.

I just wanted to be home.

I deserved it. The 24hours in a day of my life go so fast that I don't even have time to catch up with the life outside the 8-5 job.

Yes, she is whining.

My Fiance is going on a camping trip tomorrow with friends - Syahlan, Syed and Farul. Definitely extremely am going to Miss HIM.. GOSH!

Anyway, Aah... Good for him, they've been planning this for quite some time.

Owh, don't worry about me, I am happy at home. Besides, the survival camp they plan to do doesn't suit my current condition. It's the time of the month, and there's no clean water supply at all? Neahhh... I'd say my Thank You straight away. I'LL PASS.

I've got some stuff on the list to do tomorrow with my sister anyway.

Go bargain hunting and Manicure Pedicure session right after...

Heavenly isn't it? Ahhh What's not fun to be a girl?

Friday, February 6, 2009

I am Happy

What was once a dream, and was only limited to my mind had come through.

I was on a quest of finding my long lost friend, and now she is FOUND.

Thank Goodness for Facebook, thank Goodness for MSN.

I never thought I'd see Dominique again when we lost contact 15 years ago. So did she. I tried many ways, the Internet, MySpace, Friendster, and of course by going through my boxes of old mails but I didn't find her address. I was supposed to write to her and her my new address in KL, but I didn't. And that's when the chain broke.

But my memories of good times with her never fade.

I missed her so much I'd Google Earth Glasgow and see her house, and showed it to Babe every other time. Until I got this idea to search for her name in Facebook and of course, there were many Dominique Sweeneys so I just guessed and email the Dominique Sweeney that I know.

And she replied.

And she remembered me and that she's delighted I found her. She never thought she'd see me again. Catching up with her was fantastic! We have 15 years of catching up to do!

We told everyone we know about how we found each other and we just can't stop smiling!
And today, I saw her ID as online when I signed in to MSN this morning.

Yup D's online and Gosh it was wonderful to speak to her! She stayed up until 2.30am her Local time just to speak to me! I am overwhelmed!

D and I knew each other since we were 11. I just moved to Glasgow, Scotland and didn't know anyone else in school, and D became my friend, my best friend. She was sweet and nice. We'd go everywhere together!

I told D that I'm engaged and that I'm getting married. and guess what? She's the only extremely excited! She asked about my preparation and what's my wedding outfit's colour's going to be... and when I told her I haven't started anything yet, she was the one who's worried!

That's my D, always looking out for her friends. I promised her I'd come to visit. You never know... She might be down for my wedding!

Looking forward to speak to her soon! I amm sooo happy!

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Of Elm Tree and Noble-Mindedness

It's funny how I am associated with Elm Tree and Noble-Mindedness.

I saw my sister's YM status that read - Chestnut Tree. What about Chestnut Tree? I asked her and to answer my question, she forwarded me this email that read : Find your birthday and then find your tree. Obviously hers is Chestnut Tree. So I took a look at what's mine, and here it is :

ELM TREE
Elm Tree (Noble-mindedness) -- pleasant shape, tasteful clothes, modest demands, tends not to forgive mistakes, cheerful, likes to lead but not to obey, honest and faithful partner, likes making decisions for others, noble-minded, generous, good sense of humor, practical.


Noble-mindedness? Wowwww that's too heavy to bear! I love reading about it and I just couldn't stop reading it all over again... hahaha Noble-minded ... yeah right!!
Here's for those who would like to know their trees:

Find your birthday and then find your tree. This is really cool and somewhat accurate. Then send it to your friends, including the one that sent it to you, so they can find out what tree you fell from, but don't forget to change the subject line to your tree. Find your tree below and see what you are like..

Jan 01 to Jan 11 - Fir Tree
Jan 12 to Jan 24 - Elm Tree
Jan 25 to Feb 03 - Cypress Tree
Feb 04 to Feb08 - Poplar Tree
Feb 09 to Feb 18 - Cedar Tree
Feb 19 to Feb 28 - Pine Tree
Mar 01 to Mar 10 - Weeping Willow Tree
Mar 11 to Mar 20 - Lime Tree
Mar 21 (only) - Oak Tree
Mar 22 to Mar 31 - Hazelnut Tree
Apr 01 to Apr 10 - Rowan Tree
Apr 11 to Apr 20 - Maple Tree
Apr 21 to Apr 30 - Walnut Tree
May 01 to May 14 - Poplar Tree
May 15 to May 24 - Chestnut Tree
May 25 to Jun 03 - Ash Tree
Jun 04 to Jun 13 - Hornbeam Tree
Jun 14 to Jun 23 - Fig Tree
Jun 24 (only) - Birch Tree
Jun 25 to Jul 04 - Apple Tree
Jul 05 to Jul 14 - Fir Tree
Jul 15 to Jul 25 - Elm Tree
Jul 26 to Aug 04 - Cypress Tree
Aug 05 to Aug 13 - Poplar Tree
Aug 14 to Aug 23 - Cedar Tree
Aug 24 to Sep 02 - Pine Tree
Sep 03 to Sep 12 - Weeping Willow Tree
Sep 13 to Sep 22 - Lime Tree
Sep 23 (only) - Olive Tree
Sep 24 to Oct 03 - Hazelnut Tree
Oct 04 to Oct 13 - Rowan Tree
Oct 14 to Oct 23 - Maple Tree
Oct 24 to Nov 11 - Walnut Tree
Nov 12 to Nov 21 - Chestnut Tree
Nov 22 to Dec 01 - Ash Tree
Dec 02 to Dec 11 - Hornbeam Tree
Dec 12 to Dec 21 - Fig Tree
Dec 22 (only) - Beech Tree
Dec 23 to Jan 01 - Apple Tree

TREES(in alphabetical order)

Apple Tree (Love) -- quiet and shy at times, lots of charm, appeal, and attraction, pleasant attitude, flirtatious smile, adventurous, sensitive, loyal in love, wants to love and be loved, faithful and tender partner, very generous, many talents, loves children, needs affectionate partner.

Ash Tree (Ambition) -- extremely attractive, vivacious, impulsive, demanding, does not care for criticism, ambitious, intelligent, talented, likes to play with fate, can be very egotistic, reliable, restless lover, sometimes money rules over the heart, demands attention, needs love and much emotional support.

Beech Tree (Creative) -- has good taste, concerned about its looks, materialistic, good organization of life and career, economical, good leader, takes no unnecessary risks, reasonable, splendid lifetime companion, keen on keeping fit (diets, sports, etc.).

Birch Tree (Inspiration) -- vivacious, attractive, elegant, friendly, unpretentious, modest, does not like anything in excess, abhors the vulgar, loves life in nature and in calm, not very passionate, full of imagination, little ambition, creates a calm and content atmosphere

Cedar Tree (Confidence) -- of rare strength, knows how to adapt, Likes unexpected presents, of good health, not in the least shy, tends To look down on others, self-confident, a great speaker, determined, Often impatient, likes to impress others, has many talents, industrious, healthy optimism, waits for the one true love, able to make quick decisions.

Chestnut Tree (Honesty) -- of unusual stature, impressive, well-developed sense of justice, fun to be around, a planner, born diplomat, can be irritated easily, sensitive of others feelings, hard worker, sometimes acts superior, feels not understood at times, fiercely family oriented, very loyal in love, physically fit.

Cypress Tree (Faithfulness) -- strong, muscular, adaptable, takes what life has to give but doesn't necessarily like it, strives to be content, optimistic, wants to be financially independent, wants love and affection, hates loneliness, passionate lover which cannot be satisfied, faithful, quick-tempered at times, can be unruly and careless, loves to gain knowledge, needs to be needed.

Elm Tree (Noble-mindedness) -- pleasant shape, tasteful clothes, modest demands, tends not to forgive mistakes, cheerful, likes to lead but not to obey, honest and faithful partner, likes making decisions for others, noble-minded, generous, good sense of humor, practical.

Fig Tree (Sensibility) -- very strong minded, a bit self-willed, honest, loyal, independent, hates contradiction or arguments, hard worker when wants to be, loves life and friends, enjoys children and animals, sexually oriented, great sense of humor, has artistic talent and great intelligence.

Fir tree (Mysterious) -- extraordinary taste, handles stress well, loves anything beautiful, stubborn, tends to care for those close to them, hard to trust others, yet a social butterfly, likes idleness and laziness after long demanding hours at work, rather modest, talented, unselfish, many friends, very reliable.

Hazelnut Tree (Extraordinary) -- charming, sense of humor, very demanding but can also be very understanding, knows how to make a lasting impression, active fighter for social causes and politics, popular, quite moody, sexually oriented, honest, a perfectionist, has a precise sense of judgment and expects complete fairness.

Hornbeam Tree (Good Taste) -- of cool beauty, cares for its looks and condition, good taste, is not egoistic, makes life as comfortable as possible, leads a reasonable and disciplined life, looks for kindness and acknowledgment in an emotional partner, dreams of unusual lovers, is seldom happy with its feelings, mistrusts most people, is never sure of its decisions.

Lime Tree (Doubt) - intelligent, hard working, accepts what life dishes out, but not before trying to change bad circumstances into good ones, hates fighting and stress, enjoys getaway vacations, may appear tough, but is actually soft and relenting, always willing to make sacrifices for family and friends, has many talents but not always enough time to use them, great leadership qualities, is jealous at times but extremely loyal

Maple Tree (Independence of Mind) -- no ordinary person, full of imagination and originality, shy and reserved, ambitious, proud, self-confident, hungers for new experiences, sometimes nervous, has many complexities, good memory, learns easily, complicated love life.

Oak Tree (Brave) -- robust nature, courageous, strong, unrelenting, independent, sensible, does not like change, keeps its feet on the ground, person of action.

Olive Tree (Wisdom) -- loves sun, warmth and kind feelings, reasonable, balanced, avoids aggression and violence, tolerant, cheerful, calm, well-developed sense of justice, sensitive, empathetic, free of jealousy, loves to read and the company of sophisticated people.

Pine Tree (Peacemaker) -- loves agreeable company, craves peace and harmony, loves to help others, active imagination, likes to write poetry, not fashion conscious, great compassion, friendly to all, falls strongly in love but will leave if betrayed or lied to, emotionally soft.

Poplar Tree (Uncertainty) -- looks very decorative, talented, not very self-confident, extremely courageous if necessary, needs goodwill and pleasant surroundings, very choosy, often lonely, great animosity, great artistic nature, good organizer, tends to lean toward philosophy, reliable in any situation.

Rowan Tree (Sensitivity) -- full of charm, cheerful, gifted without egoism, likes to draw attention, loves life, motion, unrest, and even complications, is both dependent and independent, good taste, artistic, passionate, emotional, good company, does not forgive.

Walnut Tree (Passion) --unrelenting, strange and full of contrasts, often egotistic, aggressive, noble, broad horizon, unexpected reactions, spontaneous, unlimited ambition, no flexibility, difficult and uncommon partner, not always liked but often admired, ingenious strategist, very jealous and passionate, no compromise.

Weeping Willow (Melancholy) - likes to be stress free, loves family life, full of hopes and dreams, attractive, very empathetic, loves anything beautiful, musically inclined, loves to travel to exotic places, restless, capricious, honest, can be influenced but is not easy to live with when pressured, sometimes demanding, good intuition, suffers in love until they find that one loyal, steadfast partner; loves to make others laugh.

So... does your tree works for you just like Elm tree works for me? Hehe.. think noble-minded, noble-minded... heheheh

Am in progress of uploading the pictures from my Langkawi Island holiday. Will post them here when ready!!!

Happy CNY people!

Monday, January 12, 2009

I hate Monday because it is...

BACK TO WORK! BACK TO WORK!


That is what was read in the MMS Maxis sent to me this AM. I couldn't agree more.

I'm going to have the MMS resides in my Inbox forever, as to remind me what my Monday is all about... It's kind of scary to see a cartoon-like Boss screams "BACK TO WORK!" at you... and yes, saya seorang pekerja yang menurut perintah.




Saturday, January 10, 2009

My latest finds

My little sister Uyuun got home today for her 3 weeks break. It's been a tradition to chill in her room when she got home. It's the time to spill and tell stories of what had happened in the last few days to each other. Simpler word -Girls talk.

So I was full of expression telling her about this and that when I saw this Giant Black Ball on her desk.

"What the hell is that thing?",

"You don't know what that is? That's Magic 8-Ball lah,"

"Kau ada Magic 8-Ball? Interesting!".

So there I was, examining Uyuun's Magic 8-Ball and started to think of Yes or No questions to ask it. Just going to ask the Magic 8-Ball for the fun of it. I have no intention of believing its prediction what so ever. But I found the answers hilarious, seriously.

So here are my questions, following with Magic 8-Ball's answers in Yellow.

1.Am I going to be rich this year? - My sources say no.
2.Does Jashar really loves me? -
Without a doubt.
3.Am I going to lose weight soon? - Better not tell you now.
4.Are we going to have lots of kids? -
It is decidedly so.
5.Can I get clear skin? - Ask again later.
6.Am I pretty? -
Concentrate and ask again.
7.Are there any good movies on HBO today? - My reply is no.
8.Is Jashar's trip to Jakarta on? -
Very doubtful.
9.Is it going to rain in Langkawi? -
It is certain.
10.Am I going to eat a lot tonight? - Yes.


Seems like the Magic 8-Ball is being sarcastic with its answers to some of my questions. But it's fun to see the answer that appears on Magic 8-Ball. I still have a lot to ask it though... Maybe I can continue it later. :D



The Voice Within Says: What a Saturday Morning

The Voice Within says : Just when you think you're all set and good to go, you're strong and can never be defeated, you found out that you're not. At least, the strengths and spirit you have all these days failed on you.


It's human nature, and today, I just want to break down and cry.






Thursday, January 8, 2009

Come away with me

It's only January and I am already in desperate need of a getaway. Too much going on in the last 2008 that I didn't have time to plan a getaway with Babe. Well we did plan to go to one of the islands down South, but due to monsoon we just had to cancel the trip...
So 2009, it's time to unwind and we're hitting this place on Chinese New Year.


This is, Ladies and gentlemen, my true definition of a perfect getaway. Yes, spoken like a true beach lover. (Owh this by the way is an image of Pantai Cenang, Langkawi, Kedah, Malaysia that I Googled earlier.)

And yes, I am going to Langkawi, Kedah, Malaysia to unwind (what hasn't been unwind from last year) or rather to escape from the hustle and bustle of Kuala Lumpur. This will be my second time to Langkawi, and having been there back in 2007, I am not hoping for a lot of changes though.

All I want to do is sink my toes in the warm sand, enjoy the cold evening breeze, dip my feet in the water... ahh.. Heavenly isn't it? Watch the waves crashing... and the sunset! I am taking it all in...

Unlike my sisters ( we're going in a group of 5 - Babe, myself, my two sisters Mimie and Uyuun, and Mimie's Boyfriend, Shaz) who also has some shopping agenda to do, I just want to do the things that I didn't get to do on our last trip. Two things. One is The Cable Car ride - it was foggy the last time so it's kind of a waste if you pay for the ride and couldn't see anything up there. Another, is dipping in the sea. I didn't get to do this the last time because I dare not leave our belongings at the beach just like that - there were so many people passing by our spot.

Okay okay. I do want to shop. I mean you're in a duty free island, and you refuse to shop? Chocolates wouldn't do any harm. Neither does the new perfume you've been eyeing at the counters. And the one you want to get for Babe as well. But Arcopals do and so do Pyrexs and Corelles. In case you don't know, Arcopal is a dinnerware, Corelle is a dishware and Pyrex is glassware and all these 3 'wares can be found very cheap in Langkawi. And indeed it went No.1 in Mimie's list of things to buy for Mama. Hehe...

Luckily we chose to fly with MAS, so I hope think excess baggage isn't going to be an issue. ( We had to pay for excess baggage the last time we flew in with Air Asia - all because the Chinaware we bought for Mama weight in 5KG.)

I haven't really prepared my shopping list - personally because I don't really want to shop unless I really can't help to resist the buying desire in any sort. Chocolates are a definite, though. No chocoholic would ever say no to chocolates!

The Breakfast Bar! We need to make another visit to The Breakfast Bar!!! I am thinking its delicious Pancakes.. yum yum!

I am boarding flight MH1440 to Langkawi on January 23rd,2009 at 1145hrs. Will tell you about my trip when I get back then. Meanwhile... let's see what other things in Langkawi that I had missed on my last trip?

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

2009 - A new year, a new beginning....

.. a new hope, and a new me (or rather, a new US!)

When the clock struck 0000hrs on January 1st, 2009, while standing at the balcony looking out at what I first thought was Genting Highland but actually it wasn't, - I said a silent prayer, wishing for a better year ahead, with my family and most importantly my future husband. Ameen.

We started the first day of the year travelling down South to Port Dickson. Our initial NYE celebration plan was supposed to be in PD but needed to be cancelled so we headed there anyway. PD's like our second home now that my MIL had taken up a position running a Resort there, so driving down to PD isn't really a problem. It's just 45 mins away from KL. We love love love the beach! Well not exactly Teluk Kemang's but more to the private beaches at MayangSari Resort (my MIL runs the resort now) and at Selesa Beach Resort (name says it all, very Selesa).

What was supposed to be a trip for 4 person - Babe, I, Syahlan and Balqis, 5, actually including Johann, turned out to be a trip for 9. It turned out our other 2 friends, Gafa and Erin had also planned for a drive to PD on 01/01. 2 of Johann's friend, Hamzi and Tiha tagged along too.

What a night. One night after another. Starting from the long nap we took at Mama's place (poor Balqis for having to put up with the snoring competition!) to Babe & Syahlan's mandi pantai to the girls talk I had with Balqis, to the Ayam Panggang cravings, to the late night beach walk and card playing. All done in the first day of 2009.

When we got home later that weekend, we managed to say our resolutions to each other. What we resolve to do this year... InshaAllah. If we have faith then we can never go wrong...

As we go into the 7th day of 2009, I have got mixed feeling the past few days... I felt sick reading about the Gaza Invasion, I am missing on my friends back in Scotland and am trying to locate them now, my days as a Bachelorette are due, and I am thinking of our wedding in December... aahh my brain has already reached December!!

Go slow, Ushna, go slow...

Take one day at a time - Zerr said this to me several years ago. I am always reminded by these words, and I constantly said these to Babe as well. True enough.

While I check my Resolution list so I can start on something, here's to share with you the Top Ten Resolutions Not to Make This Year (you may want to amend your Resolution list!)

Below is ten resolution that shouldn’t show up on any Cosmo girl’s list of do’s and don’ts for 2009.

By Zoe Ruderman

1. Quit your job and wait for a dream career opportunity to present itself. Recession shmecession.
Reality check: Suck it up and hang on to your gig for now. Appease yourself by taking a class or picking up a hobby that will make your résumé stand out, like learning a foreign language or starting a blog.

2. Lose five pounds.
Reality check: Hot chicks like Jessica Biel, Beyoncé, and ScarJo are proof that toned and curvy is the new skinny.

3. Finally win back your ex-boyfriend.
Reality check: Move on. We give you permission to engage in some rebound relationship therapy.

4. Buy into all the latest trends.
Reality check: It’s okay to be a slave to fashion...just be a slave to cheap fashion, rather than dropping serious bank on each and every look. Kick yourself later for wearing it, but don’t kick yourself for blowing your paycheck on it.

5. Change your man.
Reality check: While some relationship tweaking is to be expected (hey, few guys are natural-born good kissers), if the words “fixer-upper” and “project” could describe your boyfriend, it’s time to get real.

6. Triple the number of friends you have on Facebook.
Reality check: Less time stalking your friends’ friends’ friends. More time catching up with buddies you actually care about.

7. Don’t eat any junk food.
Reality check: Cutting out all unhealthy food from your diet will most likely lead to binge eating, followed by intense guilt, by mid-January.

8. Watch less trashy TV.
Reality check: Zoning out and de-stressing for a bit every night with the help of good bad television is harmless.

9. Save more money.
Reality check: Let’s be honest. In this economy, we’re just happy to be able to pay our rent, gas, and credit card bill.

10. Keep your number down.
Reality check: Nothin’ wrong with notches on your bedpost, as long as you’re being safe.

(I got hit right in the face for items No.2, 7, 8, and 9! Dangggg...)

Happy Birthday to Ms Nadya Alias a.k.a Mrs ShahrulAzman who just turned 27 on January 4th, 2009. Happy 2009 everyone!